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Cynthia Nixon on Her Lesbianism

Posted on Jan 25, 2012

‘I don't like that word’: Cynthia Nixon says she is bisexual after causing outrage by saying she is 'gay by choice': Cynthia Nixon made some really interesting comments recently about her late-in-life lesbianism.

She's struggling to make the point that she wasn't gay her whole life, and then just finally admitted it. She had two children with her college sweetheart, and lived a heterosexual life for decades. She claims to have just made a choice later in life to….switch.

‘I say it doesn't matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.’

Cynthia said she hasn't always been gay and finds it ‘offensive’ that people say she has.

She continued: 'Why can't it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we're just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don't think that they should define the terms of the debate.

Obviously, this has enraged a lot of people, but her point is clearly that she doesn't want to delegitimize her previous relationships, which I can understand.

'But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men.

'And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her.

[...] ‘I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn't realise I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I've been out with.’